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Need Skills? Improve mental health & relationships

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    • #2 Telka's Stress Tools
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    • #7 Self- Esteem tools
    • #8 Difficult People
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    • #3-a OCD Videos
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    • #7 Parenting Stuff
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    • About
    • Services
      • Services
      • FAQ
    • Mental Help Tools
      • #1 Basic Tools
      • #2 Telka's Stress Tools
      • #3 Anxiety Tools
      • #4 Depression & Grief
      • #5 Anger Tools
      • #6 Relationship Tools
      • #7 Self- Esteem tools
      • #8 Difficult People
    • Mental Help Videos
      • #1 Stress Videos
      • #3 Anxiety Videos
      • #3-a OCD Videos
      • #4 Depression,grief video
      • #5 Anger Videos
      • #6 Relationship Videos
      • #7 Parenting Stuff
    • Resources & Trainings
      • Local Resources
      • Telka's Talks

Need Skills? Improve mental health & relationships

Telka Arend-Ritter LMSW

Telka Arend-Ritter LMSWTelka Arend-Ritter LMSWTelka Arend-Ritter LMSW
  • About
  • Services
    • Services
    • FAQ
  • Mental Help Tools
    • #1 Basic Tools
    • #2 Telka's Stress Tools
    • #3 Anxiety Tools
    • #4 Depression & Grief
    • #5 Anger Tools
    • #6 Relationship Tools
    • #7 Self- Esteem tools
    • #8 Difficult People
  • Mental Help Videos
    • #1 Stress Videos
    • #3 Anxiety Videos
    • #3-a OCD Videos
    • #4 Depression,grief video
    • #5 Anger Videos
    • #6 Relationship Videos
    • #7 Parenting Stuff
  • Resources & Trainings
    • Local Resources
    • Telka's Talks
Steve Biko Quote
Difficult people challenge our skills

Dealing with Difficult People

Dealing with difficult people requires high level mental health skills. Review these resources before attempting to tackle difficult people on your own. 

1.  Emotional intelligence. 

2.  7 Basic Tool kit skills

3. All the relationship tools

And don't forget #4 Drop the Blame Game

4. Transform Blame into Insight

Mental Health: UNDERSTAND DIFFICULT PEOPLE

Tired of getting irritated, disappointed or fooled --again? Taking everything too personally or feeling manipulated? These mental health tools help you transition from emotional, stressed, and unrealistic expectations into more logical, rational and reasonable thoughts.  No longer intending to change others, seek first to understand.  As you will note, different personality types will respond differently to the tools on this website. Some will cooperate with healthier relationships, some will sabotage, tantrum or even sever ties. You can only be your best self, then detach from outcome. An estimated 10-15% of the U.S. population has at least one personality disorder. Use the tools below to deal with the most difficult people.  Interested in Personality Disorders? Check it out!

#1 Difficult People Lesson. Blame becomes insight (pdf)Download
#2 Stressful Relationships Toolkit Program Week#2 (pdf)Download
#3 Attachment Theory: Insecure, Secure or Aloof? (pdf)Download
#4 Fair Fighting Rules (pdf)Download
#5 Concerned about substance use? Addiction? 16 page toolkit (pdf)Download
#6 Letting Go Takes Love- boundary tools (pdf)Download

Tool #7 When To Stay, walk away, or run!

Tool # 7 When to Say and when to GO

5 page PDF

When to stay and when to go

Download PDF

More information about personalities

Descriptions of personality disorders help identify toxic patterns in human thought and behavior. Compare the disorders below to the 5 basic personality traits listed in Tool #1 located on the relationship tools page.  This information is not intended to diagnose, blame or point fingers. Use this information to improve your own emotional intelligence or when working with the mental health professional of your choice.

PERSONALITY_circumplex_PD (jpg)Download
Personality Disorders Clusters A,B,C (jpeg)Download
Diagnostic-Criteria-for-Avoidant-PD (png)Download
Borderline personality disorder description DSM-5 (pdf)Download
Diagnosis of Dependent Personality Disorder (pdf)Download
Narcissistic Personality Disorder (pdf)Download

Frequently Asked Questions

Please reach us at Therapy@TelkaArend-Ritter.com if you cannot find an answer to your question.

Threatening harm, whether inwardly or outwardly is not a normal response to stress. Suicidal or homicidal threats indicate a problem with either mental health, or criminal behavior, or both.  I don't want you to deal with this alone. Threats of this nature require an evaluation by professionals and a plan for physical safety and medical help. Because there are so many different scenarios triggering this type of danger, ranging from parenting concerns to workplace issues, bad break-ups to domestic violence, from depression and substance abuse to PTSD, your first step is to contact an agency, organization or support network that applies to your specific situation. Whatever the situation, know that when another person becomes violent or experiences a mental health emergency, it is not your fault.  Never let someone hold you hostage with their threats by blaming you for their emotions or behavior.  Seek help immediately. 911 for criminal concerns and 988 for mental health emergencies.  Additional domestic violence numbers are listed below. 


Disclaimer

Relationship Violence Hotline

Call 988 for mental health emergencies

 Need safety and protection from relationship violence?

Abuse in LGBTQ+ communities 

Lansing Women's Shelter Eve's House 

Women's Center of Greater Lansing 

Michigan Sexual Abuse Hotline

Siren: Eaton County Relationship Violence Shelter

 Telka's tools, resources and recommendations are not a substitute for mental health treatment or intended to be used as medical care. This site is not intended to diagnose or treat psychiatric or medical conditions. Always consult your own health care professional for the treatment of mental illness.   


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