Dealing with difficult people requires high level mental health skills. Review these resources before attempting to tackle difficult people on your own.
And don't forget #4 Drop the Blame Game
Tired of getting irritated, disappointed or fooled --again? Taking everything too personally or feeling manipulated? These mental health tools help you transition from emotional, stressed, and unrealistic expectations into more logical, rational and reasonable thoughts. No longer intending to change others, seek first to understand. As you will note, different personality types will respond differently to the tools on this website. Some will cooperate with healthier relationships, some will sabotage, tantrum or even sever ties. You can only be your best self, then detach from outcome. An estimated 10-15% of the U.S. population has at least one personality disorder. Use the tools below to deal with the most difficult people. Interested in Personality Disorders? Check it out!
Tool # 7 When to Say and when to GO
5 page PDF
When to stay and when to go
Descriptions of personality disorders help identify toxic patterns in human thought and behavior. Compare the disorders below to the 5 basic personality traits listed in Tool #1 located on the relationship tools page. This information is not intended to diagnose, blame or point fingers. Use this information to improve your own emotional intelligence or when working with the mental health professional of your choice.
Threatening harm, whether toward self or others, is not a normal response to stress. Suicidal or homicidal threats indicate either mental health problems, or criminal intention, or both. I don't want you to deal with someone's suicidal or homicidal threats by yourself. Threats of this nature require an evaluation by professionals and a plan for physical safety and medical help. Because there are so many different scenarios triggering this type of danger, ranging from parenting concerns to workplace issues, bad break-ups to domestic violence, from depression and substance abuse to PTSD, your first step is to contact an agency, organization or support network that applies to your specific situation.
Whatever the situation, know that when another person becomes violent or experiences a mental health emergency, it is not your fault. Never let someone hold you hostage with their threats by blaming you for their emotions or behavior.
Seek help immediately. 911 for criminal concerns and 988 for mental health emergencies. Additional domestic violence numbers are listed below.
Need safety and protection from relationship violence?
Lansing Women's Shelter Eve's House
Women's Center of Greater Lansing
Siren: Eaton County Relationship Violence Shelter
Telka's tools, resources and recommendations are not a substitute for mental health treatment or intended to be used as medical care. This site is not intended to diagnose or treat psychiatric or medical conditions. Always consult your own health care professional for the treatment of mental illness.