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Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, 3 min video

My Doctor recommended Telka for brief, solution-focused CBT, what is that?  Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is a short-term, goal-oriented psychotherapy treatment that takes a hands-on, practical approach to problem-solving. The goal o this treatment approach is to change the patterns of thinking (cognition) and behavior that promote  difficulties. 


Watch this Brene Brown 3 minute video to understand how blame negatively impacts relationships.

"Are you a fault finder or a love seeker?"

Gary Chapman

Frequently Asked Questions


"How do I know if Telka can help me?"

 Telka's mental health approach is solution-focused.  People who are serious about feeling better, making changes, improving insight and becoming the best version of themselves benefit from Telka's goal directed approach. 

People who "just want someone to talk to"....perhaps meeting weekly for months, with no particular goal in mind, will prefer to find a support-focused, long-term therapist. 

Because Telka's solution-focused, cognitive-behavioral approach is not for everyone, she will ask questions to determine if her services are your best treatment fit.  If she is not able to give your service request the time and attention you deserve, she will do her best to recommend other options in the greater Lansing area. 

Telka is very limited in her ability to accept new clients at this time.  She currently refers out  requests for geriatric, child, adolescent and family therapy. She is no longer providing services for chronic, long-term conditions, legal testimony, criminal activity or those struggling with active addictions. Because Telka is not able to accommodate every new service request, her workbook,  self-help pdfs & useful videos are available on this website as free downloads to use with the health care professional of your choice. 

"Will Telka work with my teenager or provide family therapy?"

Sorry no. After 25 years of working with teens and families, Telka now refers adolescent and family therapy to other specialists in the community. She will however, meet individually with parents for consultation and strategic planning for how best to improve communication and strengthen parenting tools.  Watch the video by Jill Bolte-Taylor PhD help understand the adolescent brain: why teenagers are impulsive and risk taking.  

"Can I schedule an appointment for Telka to work with my spouse, family member or friend?"

Sorry, but no. The privacy rules associated with Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act of 1996 (HIPAA) require that competent adults consent for their own medical treatment.  Concerned MSU parents are encouraged to contact MSU Student Services with questions and  concerns.  

"What advice does Telka have for couples therapy?"

Although Telka no longer offers couple's therapy,  she does share resources and recommendations for couples who wish to improve relationship skills. Couple's therapy is successful when correctly applied as a mental health treatment choice. People who struggle with violence, addiction, depression or anxiety are not appropriate for couple's work until those individual issues are addressed. 

Use Telka's Couples counseling pre-test  below to determine if couples therapy is the appropriate treatment approach. Each each partner should answer independently:

Yes    No    1. Is alcohol or drug usage causing stress or frustration? (Arguing after drinking? Smoking or drugs causing fights?

Yes    No    2. Do either of you fear verbal, emotional or physical abuse?   

Yes    No    3. Is a third party involved in this relationship?  Examples: over involved in-laws,  unresolved prior relationship,  internet relationship or an affair

Yes    No   4. Are either of you intending to use your therapy as a forum to complain, blame or tattle on your partner? Examples: seeking therapy to change your partner  or enlisting a therapist to referee your fight

Yes    No    5. Are either of you involved in a destructive activity that damages the trust in this relationship? (abuse, addictions, betrayal,  cheating,  lying, excessive spending, gossiping,  illegal activity.

Yes    No    6. Have either of you decided to end this relationship rather than repair it? (Threat of a break-up? Attending therapy just so you can say that "you tried" before leaving?)

Scoring: "Yes" answers  indicate the need for an individual evaluation. Couple's therapy is most successful AFTER issues of mood instability, anger problems, alcohol, drugs, affairs, deception, domestic violence and illegal activity are resolved.

For assistance with improving relationships, Telka recommends

 Jonathan Blair PhD 517 348 5151  4572 S Hagadorn Rd, Suite 2E East Lansing, MI 48823 Specifically his workshop, "The Struggle is Real"